Irked….
So far I’ve managed in the last 6 months to remain remarkably calm, relaxed and vaguely groovy about the whole state of being pregnant, and the additional upheavals and changes its invariably going to have once the little one, is going to have on things.
My husband has noted that being pregnant seems to agree with me - no jimjams or depression; I put it down more to the fact that what was bothering me beforehand was the whole process of trying to get things sorted out as regards why I couldn’t get pregnant before etc.
But now we are in the home stretch of things (with stretch marks and all). We’ve started buying bits and pieces, not going crazy by any means, getting what we need and not fribbly things that will never be used, or at least not used to the point that you need to fork out 400 pounds on it.
I’ve also avoided baby books. Jon bought a Dad’s Guide to the First Year. I’ve read a lot of it and thankfully it too is nice and relaxed in that it makes the point that it is a ‘guide’ to let you know what to expect, every child is different so will do different things at different times. I really don’t want to get too regimented about the baby once it has arrived, being relaxed and going with the flow got me this far and I think it will do well enough once the baby arrives to. Obviously routine is good but there are limits.
I’ve also kept my internet browsing on the subject to a minimum, other than the NHS Direct week by week pages in the beginning, I’ve not been looking at a huge amount. And now that the baby is very very active I’ve looked at things less and less - Its as if you need less reassurance about whats going on in there when it isn’t so.. stealthy 
Of course what I shouldn’t have looked at are the month-by-month diaries on the MotherCare site (Resources Section).
They raise for me a number of questions…
- Are these real? or are they made up?
- Are they seriously thinking that I or anyone like me would have anything in common with any of the 4 ‘mums to be’?
The reason I am so indignant about these diaries is that I find them hugely insulting and not really that informative, and my husband was appalled when I read segments out to him.
I couldn’t nor did I want to identify with any of these women.
Unlike Tina, Britney Spears is not my role model and in the wake of recent events I think they’d do well to reedit this entry.
Unlike Olivia, the high-flying accountant of 38 who after 5 years of investigation is pregnant via IVF, thanks to a £6000 helping hand from the clinic, my husband and I of 28 who after 4.5 years of investigation had to fund our treatment ourselves and additional discovered that our branch of the NHS wouldn’t fund IVF for us if we went down that route as it is my husband who is infertile, if it was only female infertility we’d have had a better chance, can anyone say gender discrimination?
Also unlike Maddie, I am not too posh to push and would never have the front to demand a c-section and ask for a tummy tuck at the same time…
…I got ready for theatre (they insisted on removing my only-just-done French manicure which was irksome)…
Oh for the love of… It beggers belief, do you want to have a baby or what? And they called the poor kid Fushia!
I’m going to have to stop… just thinking about it gets me very riled up. But it makes me wonder, where are the diaries for the 20 somethings with 1st class honour degrees, who get married young (23), wait until they are settled in jobs and house, are sensible with their cash, don’t think that Posh Spice is god, wear flats, husbands can’t have kids and get messed about by consultants for 4 years? Live quiet lives with their two cats and don’t think that mini trainers or decking out their child in burberry is the be-all and end-all of having/raising children?
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